tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1497678546248195850.post8221288754839811476..comments2023-08-15T07:15:18.480-07:00Comments on Two Guys Making That Money: Together, Apart, Hump Day HmmUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1497678546248195850.post-37157096010746007142008-05-22T05:12:00.000-07:002008-05-22T05:12:00.000-07:00I remember reading a great book in grad school cal...I remember reading a great book in grad school called <I>When We Were Grownups</I> by Anne Tyler that recalls what Jeanie and Melissa are referring to. The main character was a very introverted academic young woman who suddenly decided to marry a man with several children and become a professional hostess. Her husband died soon after they married, but she continued to raise the kids and run that business. Years later, she decided to look up the man she was dating before the whirlwind marriage happened, and she realized how utterly her life changed overnight.<BR/><BR/>I understand my reference, even if it makes no sense to anyone else. My point is, you can end up putting a different face on for so long, it begins to fit better than the "real" one. Maybe that's where I am. Or maybe I've worn out my extrovert face, and I can see through the threadbare remains to the real face underneath. Hard to say, really.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for all the great comments.Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04826309601023733396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1497678546248195850.post-36947206596132910812008-05-21T17:30:00.000-07:002008-05-21T17:30:00.000-07:00This was a fabulous post.I totally understand the ...This was a fabulous post.<BR/><BR/>I totally understand the intro/extro thing. So many people think I'm this major extrovert and I'm really not. Your post kind of hit it on the head for me. Thanks for sharing.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14599462281364463565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1497678546248195850.post-61994065000008497642008-05-21T17:06:00.000-07:002008-05-21T17:06:00.000-07:00Great post, Robert.I can understand you on so many...Great post, Robert.<BR/><BR/>I can understand you on so many issues there.<BR/><BR/>I think many people who are labelled "extrovert" are as on the fringes and watchful, they just put a mask on and get out of the comfort zone.<BR/><BR/>When I have the energy I follow that pretence.jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17322709527738134797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1497678546248195850.post-68062109847500837912008-05-21T13:45:00.000-07:002008-05-21T13:45:00.000-07:00Thanks, Julie. I've always tested as somewhat of a...Thanks, Julie. I've always tested as somewhat of a mixed bag on personality tests, being about fifty-fifty on introvert vs. extrovert. I share qualities of both types, so I can definitely see why it's been a point of confusion for so long. I do care what people think, and I can really charge my batteries by having a good time with the right people, but that's just as much an introvert quality as an extrovert, in some ways. It's just that it's only been recently I've felt SO introverted, or been so keenly aware of how much of one I am. Part of it has to be environmental, because I had some changes in friendship dynamics when I moved back to this area with a wife and a different church. Loss of trust probably turned me more inward, and therefore turned up the introversion. I may go look up some personality tests, just for fun and learning, to get a perspective again on myself. Thanks for all the great comments.Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04826309601023733396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1497678546248195850.post-28175395057938455272008-05-21T13:00:00.000-07:002008-05-21T13:00:00.000-07:00Robert, I think this was one of your most honest a...Robert, I think this was one of your most honest and powerful posts. It was really moving.<BR/><BR/>I think Emily is on to something with the introvert. Many introverts---including me---are really outgoing.<BR/><BR/>But I recharge on my own, and truly need a lot of interior and solo time, time with just the family, close time.<BR/><BR/>That's the difference between introverts and extroverts, really, not amount of socializing or friendliness.<BR/><BR/>Socializing ends up tiring me out---I dish out energy with other people, and then rebuild energy alone.<BR/><BR/>My sister is an extrovert. She pulls in energy with other people.<BR/><BR/>It sounds silly and whiny, but I don't mean it that way, but people really misunderstand introvert...think they are unfriendly or don't care sometimes.<BR/><BR/>Like Emily's husband, I've made (am making) peace with my introversion.<BR/><BR/>I think your family and work are fortunate that you dedicate your energy to them.<BR/><BR/>And good luck with the crossroads.<BR/><BR/>Mostly, thanks for such an insightful and honest post.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1497678546248195850.post-88903288459332620652008-05-21T08:14:00.000-07:002008-05-21T08:14:00.000-07:00What is so weird about me being an introvert, I co...What is so weird about me being an introvert, I considered myself an extrovert in many ways in school. I was well known and freely welcomed newcomers to the school. I enjoy the company of other people. I do remember that I used to test almost dead even on introversion/extroversion aspects of personality tests. Now I am beginning to think that I was just an introvert that was comfortable in my environment so I acted like an extrovert. My father certainly encouraged me to work on being outgoing because he's a natural introvert who realized that tendency was hurting his career. Thanks to his help, I am not afraid of public speaking, and I handle interviews well, but I really am starting to think I am more of an introvert than extrovert at this point in my life.Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04826309601023733396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1497678546248195850.post-61386357497582169822008-05-21T08:01:00.000-07:002008-05-21T08:01:00.000-07:00It seems to me you may be an introvert. My husban...It seems to me you may be an introvert. My husband is much like this, and he is at peace with it now. It is just a particular way to live life -- focused on your family and your work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1497678546248195850.post-27442076528158069862008-05-21T07:17:00.000-07:002008-05-21T07:17:00.000-07:00Something I never got around to in this post (I wa...Something I never got around to in this post (I was too tired when I wrote it) was my aversion to change. I've accused other people of having that problem and all the time been as guilty as anyone. My fear of failure plays a big part, too, but the basic concept I didn't manage to work in (and may edit in, if I feel up to it) was how much I have preferred to observe my life rather than necessarily live it because it's easier to go through the day to day that way than it is to do the work to constantly rise above.Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04826309601023733396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1497678546248195850.post-15117581086814916092008-05-21T06:51:00.000-07:002008-05-21T06:51:00.000-07:00Well, maybe it's a good time to open the looking g...Well, maybe it's a good time to open the looking glass and step in. Jump in to your own life. Whether it's here or out west, it's a good time to be a part of your own life.le35https://www.blogger.com/profile/03897932629532339487noreply@blogger.com