Monday, August 4, 2008

Stages of Marriage

Yesterday a young couple about to be married came to our church because the bride had grown up there until she moved away as a teenager. The groom stood up and talked about how much his impending marriage means to him, and how much he looks forward to spending his future with his wife-to-be. I would not say I "remember" what that was like, because I think I still know what that is like. I am thankful every day for my wife and the time we spend together, and I miss her any time we're apart. The difference between that couple and us is simply time and experience. We have been through a lot as a couple, and we have come out stronger in the end. My wife also stood up and talked about the stage we appear to be in right now. She described it as running hand in hand, one child in each arm, toward a cliff to jump off. We don't know what we will find once we leave the solid ground of where we are, but our faith tells us we will be safe. I had started the meeting by talking about how much I have recently learned about the principle that obedience to commandments brings prosperity, but there is still a lot of opportunity to grow our faith through continued obedience to what I feel I must do with my future.

So I write now to consider the different stages of marriage I observed yesterday. I saw a couple about to become married, and the faith they have in each other and in God that they are meant to be together forever. I saw our situation, where we are making a big leap of faith into an unknown future. I even saw other couples who talked about their situations - retirement, grandchildren, married children who are facing trials - and I saw so many different stages of marriage around me. And it was beautiful. The love in our little church is potent - something the young groom-to-be commented on despite having never set foot there before - and deep. I have grown to love the people there, and we will miss them, but we will also remember the example they each gave us of how beautiful a union can be when it is nourished with faith and prayer.

-- Robert

6 comments:

Natasha Becoming Something said...

If it weren't for faith and prayer, I'm not sure we would have been able to pull through our trials over almost 10 years.

Robert said...

I know where you're coming from. Faith and prayer have helped us face a lot of tough decisions in our five years together. Without it, we wouldn't be together (seriously, we prayed together constantly before we got married) and it would be hard to imagine our lives without either faith or prayer.

Melissa said...

That was very well said. My church is a lot like that, too. There is a couple there that I want to be in 35 years. They are just fabulous! It's a great example not just for me, but for my kids as well.

Robert said...

We have at least two older men that my children think of as grandparents. One my son runs to anytime he sees him. The other has been special to my daughter since she was born and she even calls him Papa (and his last name). The wives are definitely special, too. In our little church, we often tell people you can't be sure which kids belong to whom by looking at our meetings because they sit with a lot of other people. It's really special.

Suki said...

Beautifully said :). I wish I was there.

Robert said...

It was definitely an uplifting meeting, you're right, Suki.